Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Rude comments, Drama and How to get what you want

Anonymous said...
thank you , but since this kit is a huge 100 Mb and some people are only interested in the elements , why not mention where are the papers & elements , instead of this unbelievable CIA secret code " LDYMCBETH 201105BSCC 3.zip " ?

To bypass the DRAMA skip to the blinky arrow below!!

Well, I'm doubting that you'll ever be back to read this, but my keyboard is fixed so here's my 2 cents worth, I'm going to try to be civil, but sometimes I get on a roll, so brace yourself because who knows?  I know this comment isn't even close to the worst I've ever had, so what's the rub? I've just had it with people who do this, and you are the final straw. Lucky you.

First of all...once again, big surprise here.  Negative comments from ANONYMOUS.  This seriously reduces your credibility and my patience level.  I don't mind nice things from anonymous users, because they're, ummm, NICE, but if you're going to be negative you need to not hide behind anonymity.  If you don't want credit for your suckish comments, then DON'T LEAVE THEM.

Secondly, I understand what you're saying, and I even gave some thought to this before I posted the files, see a couple posts back for said thoughts.  In the future, you might want to consider that it isn't WHAT you say it's HOW you say it that is most abrasive...are you always this rude? or only when no one knows who you are? I hope it's always, because then I might have a tiny bit of respect for your opinion.

Thirdly, my keyboard was broken (if you had read the post and not just gone directly for the goodies.) I was doing the best I could.  The "CIA" code is fairly standard, actually, and most people do it similarly.  My name first, then the identifier for the kit.  In this case, for example, it is 2011 May Brownie Scraps Color Challenge, then the number is part 1, 2 or 3.  It's even in the title of the post. See? It's not rocket science to the rest of us.

Fourthly, I try to keep each zip as close to 30MB as I can to be respectful of the people who only have dial up available to them (also mentioned recently, IF you weren't going straight for the FREE stuff).  So I mix up the papers and ellies to fit and not have to have 8 files for download.  I really try to keep my minis to only two downloads, but these were particularly large for some reason.

Fifthly, I am not a designer, but just a humble scrapbooker who likes to play with Photoshop a little once in a while.  Since you are getting them for FREE and I make no profit on any of my offerings so far, but I do put money INTO them sometimes, and, further, since they are free to you...did I mention FREAKING FREE??...I would think that if it's a problem for you, you could just pass them on by if you don't like them, or you don't like me, or you have a problem with my labeling system, or what ever else there is with which you might have an issue.

And this is my final thought since I've ticked myself off and really didn't intend to waste this much time on you and, probably, no one else wants to read my rants and raves anyway.  It is not last because I don't have more to say to you, I surely do.

Anyway, lastly, you actually have a valid point. ::read that as if I said it with gritted teeth, because it hurts me to say it::  BUT, if it were me, instead of using a passive-aggressive attitude and saying something mean with a smile on my face and trying to pretend I wasn't trying to be offensive when I really was, I might have just asked in case they really didn't know it makes a difference.  But, I wouldn't have insulted them while asking them for something...that just doesn't seem very effective to me.  As I tell my children, if you want something you have to tell people in a way that lets them hear you...unless you really aren't interested in solving a problem, but only in being insulting and nasty without having to reap the harvest of it, which is what I suspect of you.

 The relevant stuff is BELOW...

SO, Anonymous,  this is what I'm going to do:  I'm going to pretend like you said this:

          "Thank you for sharing with us.   This kit is large and I have a slow connection for download.
          Can you tell me which sections have elements in them so I can download only those?
          Thanks for helping me."

And my response is:

          "Thank you so much for your interest! It's a good point that some people might only want papers
          or elements, and in the future, I will pack them so they are separate.  It does make more sense that
          way.  For this kit, there are elements in all the zips, but I will repack them so you can download just
          the elements if you wish. I hope you enjoy them!"

Oh, wait, I can't do that...you're Anonymous and I can't contact you.  What a shame.


  1. Just a quick note to let you know that a link to this post will be placed on CraftCrave in the DigiFree category today [25 May 02:15am GMT]. Thanks, Maria

  2. Hmmm...I wonder why? No freebies this time, lol! :)

  3. Thank you so much for your great kit. I really appreciate that you share them for free with the world.=)

  4. Bless you for giving freebies away and people who can't accept them graciously - GET A LIFE!

  5. Responding to passive-aggressive people with a passive-aggressive response really isn't going to make the situation better. Just ignore them and move on.

  6. Thanks for the kit!! I'm horrible at leaving comments, but I always appreciate your gorgeous works. I still have your Christmas kit for the November (or December??) Colour Challenge at STS and it's one of my favourite kits that I have!

    As for the comment you received... it was a pretty stupid one to make. And you had every right to post and explain why you do things this way. Unlike what YET ANOTHER ANONYMOUS COMMENT SAID, you are not being passive-aggressive, so don't worry! :)

  7. Awww, thanks you guys! I really appreciate all the awesome comments. I was having a "moment", lol!

  8. I think you should tell anonymous just stay the HELL away from here. Hasn't he/she ever heard the old saying: if you can't say something nice then don't say anything at all. I really appreciate your generosity. I LOVE your designs. THANK YOU for sharing your awesome generous talent:)

  9. Light of the MoonJune 1, 2011 at 8:51 PM

    I noticed in your "rant" that you are not a designer. Why not? I discovered your blog through the Brownie Scraps unbaked challenge and I think all of your freebies are beautiful (I think I grabbed them all) Thank you for all your time and effort to provide these to all of us (even the ungrateful ones).

  10. Thanks again, y'all! I really appreciate your comments and I feel much better!!

  11. You go, Girl! You rock! I really enjoyed reading your rant and empathize/sympathize 100%. I especially appreciated your redo of that rude one's approach. Her method of asking you about your file naming and organizational system made me wonder whether she had ever learned that one can draw more flies with honey than with vinegar (or however the saying goes).

    Down here (on St. Croix in the USVI), we have a territorial senator whose nickname is "Positive," and his motto is "Positive is how I want to live." Also, my blood type is B+, and I like to joke that it's "BE POSITIVE," which has become my mantra. That poor, misguided woman needs to catch up on the SECRET of the universe, which is simply the POWER OF POSITIVE ATTRACTION. What one sends out is what one gets in return. Negative attracts negative, and positive attracts positive. I believe everyone in the whole world could use a large dose of positivity. What a better place Earth would be for us all.

  12. EXCELLENT! Beautifully said! I always wonder about whiners who complain about freebies and they know they are out of line or they would not be ANON. Also being one of those scrappers who dabble a bit in designing I know exactly what you are saying. A little kindness and courtesy goes a long way.

    Like my mom always told us, "Ask me nice and I will give you most anything, tell me I have to and you can forget it." There is so much truth in that old axiom "You will gather more flies with honey than vinegar."